My Introduction - Hello *waves*

Hi there, I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself. I am a 40 year old woman and my biological son and I are in an intense love affair / relationshiop. He is 21 years old. He was placed for adoption and then reunited with me a few years ago. There was an instant attraction between us and a connection neither one of us had felt before. I looked up GSA to see what this could all be about but when we both came out and told each other how we felt we new it was much more than that. We have been having a relationship for 3 years now though it's all been secret. We talk about marriage but the family he was adopted to treated him poorly, and even emotionally abused him, so our family now has taken him in with open arms and he finally feels he found something. He's worried, more so than I, about coming out but it puts a strain on our relationship having to hide.

Anyways, that's my brief story. I'm really glad that I stumbled on to this place. I feel at peace for the first time that i'm not alone.

Welcome to the forums Anastasia, I've just upgraded you so you can view and participate in all of the forums.

You're definitely not alone any more, and you're sure to make good friends here. Most regulars here have either experience of GSA or consensual incest, the latter in my case, so you'll find others here in similar situations to yourself.

Sorry to hear about your sons adoptive family, they don't sound like very nice people Hopefully he has found what he is looking for now he is reunited with his bio family.

I'd be careful on the coming out thing, a lot of people don't understand the issues involved and make all kinds of inaccurate assumptions. Worst case scenario would be you both being reported to the police. I know what a strain the secrecy and fear of being caught can put on a relationship though, it's not easy to go through and I've been there myself. Actually it is that very thing that prompted my dad to end our relationship.

Anyway, welcome aboard and hope to hear more from you soon

So nice to hear from you Jane. We definitely have consensual incest and not GSA. At first, I believe, it was but then grew from there once we both knew we were in love with each other.

He has found what he was looking for in his bio family and that is part of the reason he is so afraid to come out. He doesn't want to lose what he found. I can completely understand that and agree, though for some reason my worry isn't as strong as his. I respect the decision we have both made and keeping this to ourselves but I wonder, how long can we go on like this? We get asked all the time how come we dont have relationships with other men and woman. His friends try to set him up, and my friends try to set me up and it's just so awkward to put them off all the time. More so on his end, because of his age, people think he SHOULD be in a relationship. It can be hard to watch on my end and honestly its unbearable.

I am so sorry to hear the reason your dad ended your relationship. I read your story before joining and really feel for you. To be so in love with someone you can't be with is is torture. I think that is what will happen with my love and I. :-(

Sometimes life throws people curveballs that just aren't fair, and being unable to be with my dad as his partner as well as just being his daughter is one of those. Just because it happened to me doesn't necessarily mean it will happen to you too. That said, my blog and activism are going to go some small way towards getting these stupid laws overturned so that nobody else has to go through this. It's a matter of education on the subject, most people know almost nothing about our people and most of what they do know is misinformation. Those of us who are blogging are trying to set the record straight.

i am so glad you are doing this. Being informed is key and everyone (normally) just passes judgment instead of trying to understand. thank you for having me here i'm looking forward to it.

Welcome!

hiya anastasia blues, it's good to have you here, and I'm very glad that it's brought you some peace too.
As for what the future holds, time only knows. Hopefully things will all work out as they are meant to.

Hello Anastasia, I am Cristina. welcome to Kindred. You are among friends here. If there is anything I can do please don't hesitate to shoot me a personal message. You can find my story in the "my story" section of the forum. I am glad you found us. kind regards, Cristina

There are some great people here. We're welcome to have you.

welcome