Re-introduction

Hello!

I've been a member here for a few years, but I haven't been on the forum in quite a while, so I thought I should post a reintroduction instead of just hopping in and posting! Here's a link to my original introduction,

https://ks2016.forumactif.fr/t2772-hi-new-here

But basically what it says is that I'm a 52 year old woman and I was married (handfasted, not legally recognized) to my brother who is now deceased. I still consider myself an advocate for consang relationships. I have been away from the consang community for a while because I kept having unpleasant experiences with the people there -- though not from THIS forum, which is why I ventured to come back here! But I was on a few other facebook groups, and I got fed up with fetishists contacting me through the group and immediately asking me variations on the same questions like "Do you ____ your brother's ____? What's it like?" And when I would explain that, though I'm an ally, my brother is deceased, they would not even respect THAT, and would literally just continue with, "Oh. But you used to _____ his _____, right? What was it like?" It was clear that I was viewed as an opportunity to have a real-life chat with the subject of their favourite porn fetish. I WISH I were making that up! I think a lot of fetishists feel it's all just good fun and they're not hurting anyone, but seriously . . . "Oh, he's deceased? Sorry. Did you used to ____ his _____ though?" is actually hurtful.

Anyway, off the soapbox now!! My point is just: thanks for being an actual SAFE place to connect with people who understand. I'm looking forward to catching up with you all again!

Sad to hear that and sorry to hear about your brother passing.

Had no idea there were other places that provided “community” for consangs, especially on Facebook. Is it somewhere still worth connecting to?

Welcome back, WordSlinger! And thanks for the re-introduction. I see Keith upgraded you when you originally joined.

Of course, you don’t have to share the details of your sex life with anyone here. And if anyone here pesters you for them, please let me or any other mod or admin know, and we’ll apply some ninja pest control.

What’s on your mind? Keep in mind that this group is public, so you might want to use one of the members-only ones.

Stay safe,
UN

Welcome back.
I'm newer here, signed up about a month ago.
Had a relationship with my mom about 30 years ago

Could you share some of the other sites? I'd be interested in checking the out.

Welcome back!

Those who want to connect on Facebook can reach me here:

https://www.facebook.com/FullMarriageEquality

I'm sorry for your loss. I understand also where you are coming from with the fetish types. Can't tell you how many times I've been asked for "pics" and "nudes" of my sister, often times quite insistently (not by anyone here). But that is nowhere near as insulting as how they behaved towards you.

Wordslinger,
Welcome back and my condolences over the loss of your husband/ brother. It is so difficult to lose a partner in non cosang relationships so I'd imagine it's doublely difficult in cosang relationships. Your loss is compounded because of the family relationship magnified by the loss of a (most often secret)  long term lover/partner.

Again Welcome back and my respectful condolences over your loss.

And to bring little humor to your posting:  "Did you used to ____ his _____ though?"
"Did you used to WASH his WINDOWS though?"
"Did you used to SEW his SOCKS though?"
"Did you used to DRIVE  his CAR though?"
Did you used to SWEEP his SIDEWALK though?"
All normal things couples might do, LOL!

Welcome back. I hope your online experiences get better.

I had a relationship with my mom about 30 years ago, but also lost her. While not in a consang relationship anymore, I remain a steadfast ally.

Online I make it very clear about my own details, but still get the fetishist also, so have dropped out of the online consang thing entirely. I have only had bad experiences with everyone anywhere, so just do not invest any further into reaching out & networking anymore.

Since I'm a very strong strong strong detractor of faacebok, I've no experience with that train wreck, so have no idea of any incest type of framework that might exist over there, but your experience there sounds par for the course & I am only all too bummed that your experience over there has lived up to its own trashy reputation.

Overall, I've found that this forum is a kinder, gentler place for our particular life-experience. Not to say that this is a generalized statement for everyone since I've had very bad experiences, but the moderation here is such that this site is far more elevated "light- touch" that is uncommon & even downright rare & possibly unique within this particular social community.

No place is perfect, but I'd say the bar is much higher here, so I hope you don't get burned again as I have.

Best wishes.
Peace

WordSlinger wrote:Hello!  

I've been a member here for a few years, but I haven't been on the forum in quite a while, so I thought I should post a reintroduction instead of just hopping in and posting!  Here's a link to my original introduction,

https://ks2016.forumactif.fr/t2772-hi-new-here

My point is just:  thanks for being an actual SAFE place to connect with people who understand.  I'm looking forward to catching up with you all again!