Hi! I am Sparkles.

Hi, I am around 40. I am not involved in a current relationship with family members but I am a GSAer. My cousin was my first crush, then my sister, now, grown up my mom and I have gotten close to crossing lines a couple of times when talking about sex.

It's the last part that I am dealing with and could use support for

Hi, Sparkles, welcome to KS. I've upgraded your membership.

I'm not sure that you are really talking about GSA, though. GSA happens when relatives are reunited after being separated in childhood. So it rarely happens with more than one person. Is that the case with you?

Also, I'm going to guess from your forum name that you're female. Am I right?

Please let us know more about what you need help with in the members-only forums.

Best,
UN

Welcome aboard!

Welcome. You're definitely in the right place here. If you're unsure what to do with the situation with your mother... have you considered talking to her? It might do some good to clear the air and let her know what you're thinking and feeling, and allow her the chance to do the same. Since you've already come close it is quite possible she is on the same wavelength as you, but is afraid to go that one more step. This is very common for parents in these situations, they're afraid of holding you back, of being too dominant in the relationship, would she be harming you in some way ...etc. Your mother probably has these thoughts going around her head. We've had parents here addressing these very issues on the forum. So please, read some threads in general discussions and get a feel for the kind of help that is on offer here. If you speak to her, your mother may also wish to join to clear her mind. You can both speak to others who have gone through the same issues, and find ways to resolve them.