Got caught

Hi.. I'm a 51 yr old female. My brother(62) and I have been having a "affair" for awhile and we got caught by his wife. In her eyes I'm the biggest pos and I am too blame for his cheating with me. I'm so in love with him and this is literally killing me . What and how do I deal with it? I'm no longer allowed to be apart of the family....

Sorry you are in the situation you are in.
My mom and I got busted by my dad almost 30 years ago.

I don't have any advice. But iny situation, they stayed married.
In my case my mom was a cheater and once we started connecting sexually she stopped being interested in cheating.

I personally don't think what you and your brother did was cheating, I think it's an extension of brother sister love, but I know that doesn't mean anything to your brothers wife.

Hi, Wildflower, welcome to Kindred Spirits. I’ve upgraded your account.

Wow, that’s awful. Does your brother want to stay with his wife, or leave her for you?

I can move this thread to one of the members-only groups if you’d rather talk about it more privately.

Peace,
UN

Don't rush. Give things a chance to settle. I think you and your brother will work it out.