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Hi everybody, my name is Nicole, or you can just call me Nicky. I'm in a relationship with my father for 7 years. I'm 27 and he's 48. I lost my virginity to my father at the age of 20, so he's my first and only love. We just moved to our new place and we are planning to make a baby. I know he will make a great father. I mean, after all, he did raised me himself. Feel free to message me, or ask me any questions.

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Welcome aboard Nicky, and congrats on the love you share with your dad, your relationship sounds amazing. I was with my dad for 8 years on and off in a non-GSA relationship like yours. The main difference between my story and yours is that I'd had a boyfriend before my dad, and that he was dealing with a lot of guilt isses and ended it, and he was terrified of us getting caught one day, which I can understand because society makes ridiculous assumptions, both about consanguinamory in general, and parent/offspring relationships in particular. I'm very happy for you both that you're still going strong

Jane Doe, I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you and your dad. My father was the same way when we started our relationship. He felt like he was betraying my trust and that he wasn't being fair to me. It took a whole year for my father to get over his shame and guilt. I had to constantly reassure him that I like it and I was okay with it. He's a great father and he finally sees that now.

hiya Nicky and welcome to the forums! your relationship sounds amazing; if you'd like sharing more, we've threads for member stories. And also, congrats for your new place!

Nicky3000 wrote:Jane Doe, I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you and your dad. My father was the same way when we started our relationship. He felt like he was betraying my trust and that he wasn't being fair to me. It took a whole year for my father to get over his shame and guilt. I had to constantly reassure him that I like it and I was okay with it. He's a great father and he finally sees that now.

It's a common problem in parent/offspring relationships, unfortunately. Parents feel this way because society told them to feel like that, it's subconsciously accepted that they're 'bad' or 'abusive' in some way even though that isn't true at all. There is always hope that my dad will change his mind one day, and we're still close in the family sense of the word, and as friends. In any case it's nice to hear about a long-term happy relationship like yours, even if things were rocky because of the guilt at first

Jane Doe, have you ever thought about seducing your father back into your arms again? I'm pretty sure that he still feel the same way about you. I think your father had a hard time accepting the fact that he actually likes it just the way my father did at first. My father and I learn to turn our relationship into humor. Sometimes when my father looks at me and I'll say, "are you checking out your own daughter?" We try not to take the incest part too seriously. We just accept it for what it really is.

Nicky3000 wrote:Jane Doe, have you ever thought about seducing your father back into your arms again? I'm pretty sure that he still feel the same way about you. I think your father had a hard time accepting the fact that he actually likes it just the way my father did at first. My father and I learn to turn our relationship into humor. Sometimes when my father looks at me and I'll say, "are you checking out your own daughter?" We try not to take the incest part too seriously. We just accept it for what it really is.

Although I probably could, I won't, at least not while he is still feeling conflicted about the relationship we had before. If he can get to a point where he is guilt free, then of course I'd pursue him. It's one of those situations where he would need to be 100% sure, and right now he isn't. Hope that makes sense.

Jane Doe, if you don't mind me asking, how long have you and your dad been broken up? I mean, as a couple.

Nearly 6 years now. It's been tough and frustrating, but sometimes that's just what happens in life. I can always hope

Jane Doe, I really hope that your father will come back to you. I can tell that you yearn for your father's love. I can imagine your frustration, not being able to have your father to hold you, kiss you, and love you the way that you want him to. It's almost like being friends, but you want to be more than just friends. Well, in this case, you want to be more than just family. May I ask, what is it that you miss about your dad?

Nicky3000 wrote:Jane Doe, I really hope that your father will come back to you. I can tell that you yearn for your father's love. I can imagine your frustration, not being able to have your father to hold you, kiss you, and love you the way that you want him to. It's almost like being friends, but you want to be more than just friends. Well, in this case, you want to be more than just family. May I ask, what is it that you miss about your dad?

I miss loads of stuff, but that bond we once had, it was incredibly strong and intense... we used to be able to tell each other everything, so we didn't have to keep parts of ourselves secret from each other, we shared a similar sense of humor and had similar values. We enjoyed spending time alone together and would get as much of it as we could. It's hard to pick one particular thing, but if I had to I would say it's the intimacy, being able to be everything to each other. I'm incomplete without him.

Jane Doe, I know the kind of intimacy that you're referring to. In my opinion, I believe it's the best kind of bond that a daughter could have with her father. You received all of his love and he received al of yours. Does your dad know that you're still in love with him? Do you believe that he still have feelings for you? Do you still sense his attraction for you when you are around each other?

Nicky3000 wrote:Jane Doe, I know the kind of intimacy that you're referring to. In my opinion, I believe it's the best kind of bond that a daughter could have with her father. You received all of his love and he received al of yours. Does your dad know that you're still in love with him? Do you believe that he still have feelings for you? Do you still sense his attraction for you when you are around each other?

He knows my feelings, and although he hasn't said it, I'm pretty sure he still has feelings for me, but with how conflicted he still feels... he would need to work through his issues before getting back with me would be a good idea.

I hope one day your dad will finally get over his guilt so you two can live happily together. I kind of want to talk some sense to your dad. I wish he could see how much you need him. Best of luck to you. Feel free to reach out to me if you ever just want to chat.

Nicky3000 wrote:I hope one day your dad will finally get over his guilt so you two can live happily together. I kind of want to talk some sense to your dad. I wish he could see how much you need him. Best of luck to you. Feel free to reach out to me if you ever just want to chat.

Thanks Nicky Same goes to you too, if you ever need to talk about anything feel free to drop me a PM In any case, you can see why this forum exists, so people like us can talk to others who understand. Actually it's been my experiences which inspired me to do my blog and help get the word out there that we're just normal people like everyone else with this one little difference. I love hearing from people like you who have had more success in their relationship than I did, it's beautiful