Hi transferred over from KS

I am from Massachusetts. My sister and I are in our 40's and we have an emotional relationship. I want a physical one and she has told me that she is willing. My only hesitation is that I don't want to hurt her. I want her to be with me for the right reasons. Meaning that she wants to be with me. Not because she wants to make me happy.
I am concerned that any shame or regret could cause damage.
Maybe she doesn't need the support like I did but I am going to encourage her to register here so she can see for herself that there are other people like us.

Would be great if she could come along too, if it's right for her. Welcome xxx

Welcome to the family.
Wiccan

I really don't visit as often as I used to. But now when I say 'I let my participation and membership lapse on the old board' I'll now have to say 'no, not that board, I mean the user forum before that one.' Still, it's wonderful to see that there's still a community and even with the population undergoing it continual glacial shift. Kudos to the volunteers who make everything possible. It's work and appreciated.

QD

You are right to be cautious and make sure that your sister feels the same way for you as you do for her. You can break up with a girlfriend, but your relationship with a sibling is forever. Being careful with each other is important.

It's best to take things slowly and not rush into anything, perhaps let her make the next move and keep the lines of communication wide open.

Crazybr01 wrote:I am from Massachusetts. My sister and I are in our 40's and we have an emotional relationship. I want a physical one and she has told me that she is willing. My only hesitation is that I don't want to hurt her. I want her to be with me for the right reasons. Meaning that she wants to be with me. Not because she wants to make me happy.
I am concerned that any shame or regret could cause damage.
Maybe she doesn't need the support like I did but I am going to encourage her to register here so she can see for herself that there are other people like us.

You know that if you got your sister to join our group, that could be the first turning point for both of you.
Fear is only a lack of knowledge.
Seeking the answer for you both through a community of like mind people will help.
Bright Blessing
Wiccan

Thank you everyone. I gave her the link for the old site a while ago but I don't know if she ever checked it out.
I think women and men see and handle situations differently. I don't know if they need a site like this. I know that I sought out info on the internet because I wanted to figure myself out. All the usual questions. Why do I feel this way if it's wrong? When and why did it become a bad thing?
Obviously finding other people helped. The only problem was are these people real or is it just a bunch of pervs.
As far as my relationship with my sister, I know she loves me but I don't know if she is attracted to me. She has not pushed or pursued anything. It always seems to be be pursuing.

Crazybr01 wrote:Thank you everyone. I gave her the link for the old site a while ago but I don't know if she ever checked it out.
I think women and men see and handle situations differently. I don't know if they need a site like this. I know that I sought out info on the internet because I wanted to figure myself out. All the usual questions. Why do I feel this way if it's wrong? When and why did it become a bad thing?
Obviously finding other people helped. The only problem was are these people real or is it just a bunch of pervs.
As far as my relationship with my sister, I know she loves me but I don't know if she is attracted to me. She has not pushed or pursued anything. It always seems to be be pursuing.

To be fair, I think the further away you are from the porn sites, the more real people you'll find. Forums like this one are a great place to communicate with others without having to stop and think every minute 'is this person real' and then going to re-read his or her postings. I used to have same problem of not knowing if people were real or not when I very first made contact with an incest forum (yes, one of those dreaded porn places)... I so wanted to believe that there were others like me but I wasn't sure what was real and what wasn't. It took a little while to be able to tell at a glance, and it's not like non-pornographic forums existed for non-GSA people back then. Just talking to others who had similar feelings and experiences helped me to understand myself. I can completely relate to these feelings and frustrations and the journey to self-understanding. Sites such as this one will make this journey easier for others than it was for those of us who have been around the internet for a significant length of time

Thank you

>To be fair, I think the further away you are from the porn sites, the more real people you'll find. Forums like this one are a great place to communicate with others without having to stop and think every minute 'is this person real' and then going to re-read his or her postings

This times one thousand.

If the point of the board is discussion rather than sexual material, then those seeking porn will — in minutes — gravitate to Literotica to get their immediate needs met. I think that having a gate to membership helps increase the seriousness. One of the GSA boards that no longer exists used to have a month or two waiting list to get on, just to avoid people in Friday or Saturday nights filling the board with nonsense.

Crazybr01 It is good to have you here, and please encourage your sister to come along. Slow and caring will serve you both. And when you make a decision about your relationship, you will be comfortable with it.

QwertyDvorak wrote:>To be fair, I think the further away you are from the porn sites, the more real people you'll find. Forums like this one are a great place to communicate with others without having to stop and think every minute 'is this person real' and then going to re-read his or her postings

This times one thousand.

If the point of the board is discussion rather than sexual material, then those seeking porn will — in minutes — gravitate to Literotica to get their immediate needs met. I think that having a gate to membership helps increase the seriousness. One of the GSA boards that no longer exists used to have a month or two waiting list to get on, just to avoid people in Friday or Saturday nights filling the board with nonsense.

This is half of the reason why we ask our newbies to introduce themselves before granting them access, we can screen out fetish people at the door. So like, if somebody posts something sexual in their intro, or something obviously fake then we know not to let them in. Sometimes we have to ask people to clarify their reason for wanting to join, if such wasn't made obvious. On the odd occasion that a weirdo does fool us for a while, we deal with that by booting and banning (and removing any inappropriate posts). Mercifully it doesn't happen too often.

The other half of the reason we have the system is to protect everyones privacy and security. Most people don't want the world being able to read their story, even behind the protection their username provides and even knowing that the servers are in a safe country. We understand this, and we can never be too careful.

Both these issues is something that as admins we take very seriously, we wanted KS to be a cut above the rest, and this new version of KS has been running for a year now and we've succeeded in creating the type of community we set out to create... the kind of place I wished had existed back in the day.

As for the GSA forums, I can understand them wanting to make people wait to discourage trolls and weirdos (and boy does the subject attact them like moths to a flame, as a cursory glance at the incest reddits would reveal), but two months? That seems a little extreme to me even though the reasoning behind it was good.