Introduction

Hi there,
I'm L. and I have only discovered this forum today.

I'm a divorced mother of two girls who live with me full time, and we live in Nova Scotia, Canada.

I started researching GSA recently without even being aware that the term GSA existed.

I am not in a GSA or consensual relationship. I'm trying to research the behaviour of my oldest who is in second year university.
In the past few months she has been overly flirtatious with me and I'm trying to interpret that behaviour. I have not discussed her behaviour with her in any capacity, however as times passes it's becoming more overt. I guess I'm looking for advice on how to respond.

warmest regards to all

Hi, L.,

Welcome to Kindred Spirits. I've upgraded you for full access to all the forums. Please feel free to discuss your issues with your daughter with us privately in General or Non-GSA. (GSA is probably not the issue with your daughter unless she was separated from you for a prolonged period in childhood.)

We'd be glad to help you with your situation with your daughter if we can. I'll presume that she is an adult, since she's in the second year of university.

Best,
UN

Hello L and welcome to the forum.

http://marriage-equality.blogspot.com/p/genetic-sexual-attraction.html

http://marriage-equality.blogspot.com/2010/08/natural-attraction.html

http://marriage-equality.blogspot.com/p/family-and-friends.html

http://marriage-equality.blogspot.com/2017/05/cautious-consanguinamory.html

http://marriage-equality.blogspot.com/2017/05/when-someone-you-love-wants-to-love-you.html

http://marriage-equality.blogspot.com/p/case-studies.html

https://consanguinamory.wordpress.com/about-me/

https://consanguinamory.wordpress.com/help-i-think-a-family-member-may-be-consanguinamorous/

http://thefinalmanifesto.blogspot.com/2015/03/why-do-i-support-consanguinamory.html

Hi L,

GSA is Genetic Sexual Attraction, it refers to when people are separated when the younger is in their formative years, and then are reunited as adults or older teens. Sexual attraction can then occur between these two people as a result of that separation, as the Westermarck Effect never got a chance to develop.

If this didn't occur, then what she is experiencing is Non-GSA attraction, which is when the Westermarck Effect is just absent naturally. When this happens we are by our very nature unable to become repulsed by the idea of incest relationships and quite often we do find ourselves attracted towards relatives.

Both types of consanguinamory are caused by lack of Westermarck Effect, one by circumstance and the other by nature. It is human nature to be attracted to people with whom we have similarity, for most people this is expressed by finding a mate with similar interests, personalities or looks. Take Westermarck out of the equation and it's not hard to see why consanguinamory happens.

As for advice on what to do regarding your daughter flirting with you... well really this would depend on whether or not you'd be open to a relationship with her or not. If you aren't then of course you should ask her to stop the flirting and explain gently that you're flattered but very much not interested (in which case you still did good to come to us and find out more). If on the other hand you are interested, then the two of you need to sit down and have a talk about what each of you wants to get out of the relationship. If you're unsure, then you can always stick around here for a while and read the existing threads while you mull over your decision.

Hope we can help

Thank you for the welcome and overview. I’m grateful and appreciative of any information or advice offered here.
I’m still new to the jargon but hope to get up to speed as soon as I can.

L.

Hi, L.,

Why not start a thread in General Discussion and we can continue there, where we have some privacy?

Best,
UN

Welcome!

Hiya L & welcome, you're doing good looking for answers, instead of jumping to conclusions. Hopefully we can help you!