introduction- sister

Mon 10 Jun 2024 - 0:14 Message reputation : 100% (2 votes)

Hello everyone.

I'm a woman, aged 35. I've been in a complex relationship with my brother, who is a few years older than I since we were in our teens.
After a very long separation, he's made it back into my life. It was and still is a lot to process and, as you probably know, not something I could just open up about to anyone in my social circle. I made the classic mistake of going to a popular forum board to finally speak up about my predicament where I was mostly reviled and told to get therapy (or kill myself, for the most extreme dms I received).
My brother disapproves of mentioning our relationship at all, even anonymously, for fear of exposing ourselves. He says we cannot be too careful.
But I do feel like I'd like to talk. I've been looking for a place without judgement which isn't some strange fetish circle where everyone is inappropriate. I hope this is it.
Thank you.

Mon 10 Jun 2024 - 1:07 Message reputation : 100% (1 vote)

Welcome friend! I know what it's like to want to talk about it but feel like you have to stay quiet and never bring it to the light of day. It sucks, but I've found this place to be a supportive one regarding our kinds of dynamics. I hope you enjoy it here!

Mon 10 Jun 2024 - 3:13

Well, you're definitely in the right place.

Mon 10 Jun 2024 - 11:50

Hi, Hydrangea, welcome to Kindred Spirits, and congratulations on your love with your brother. I’ve upgraded your membership.

People can be incredibly cruel when they’re hiding behind the cloak of anonymity. I hope you find a more supportive environment here and some kinder people to talk to.

Peace,
UN

Thu 13 Jun 2024 - 16:53

Welcome Hydrangea! I too had to be careful to respect my mother. But any chance to admit our relationship when away made things more fun.
Enjoy your love with your brother.

Thu 13 Jun 2024 - 19:11

Welcome! You should feel safe here, but always be cautious about sharing detailed personally-identifiable information. I have found this to be a caring and helpful forum of “Kindred Spirits”.

Thu 1 Aug 2024 - 17:20

Rework pending.

Thu 15 Aug 2024 - 0:05

Hydrangea, your brother isn't exactly wrong. There is always a small risk involved in any communication with others about a forbidden topic, especially one that carries a criminal penalty. It's just that in the case of KS, the risk is very small. The KS server is located in France, a country which has long had no criminal penalty for consanguinamorous relationships. It's always (theoretically) possible that the server could be hacked, etc., etc. but it is a long shot.

Use a VPS. It makes tracing you virtually impossible, and the cost is usually very low--$20 a month or less. A cheap price for peace of mind.

Thu 15 Aug 2024 - 0:29

Hydrangea, I'm sorry you had such an awful experience elsewhere. It's prudent to be careful with what details you share and to whom, but it can also be a huge relief to know that you're not alone (it certainly was for me). I hope you find comfort knowing that there are others in similar relationships that understand and accept you.

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