New here and seeking support

Hello everyone I am John I am 21 and in a relationship with my mother who is 42. I'd prefer not to say what state I'm I if that's okay. Everything between us started after I was 18.

I am struggling with aspects of this relationship and need support/help from people who have been through relationships like this. Sometimes I feel trapped because of the secret nature of our relationship like I don't have anywhere to turn. I posted on another message board basically filled with people looking to get off to stories and didn't find much help but someone did refer me here privately as a place to get real help (for which I am very grateful).

You must be talking about the incest group on reddit. Yeah, it is full of trolls and endless sock puppet accounts.

The need for secrecy makes this kind of relationship difficult. I take it you two live together. Is it just the two of you at home?

Welcome aboard, I've upgraded your account so you now have full access to the forums. You'll be able to discuss your relationship issues in here with other people without other people being there asking for sordid details to masturbate over (and believe me, I know what that's like going back over the years). We're a pretty friendly support group here so I'm sure you'll make yourself at home pretty quickly

Also, I was with my dad on and off for about 8 years, so I understand what it's like being in a relationship with a parent, if you would like to discuss anything privately you can drop me a PM any time, I'm usually on here at least once a day, on weekdays more than once.

Welcome! You've come to the right place. And yes, secrecy is a pain. But you'll find help here.

Welcome, John! I'm new here too and just getting the hang of the place. It's not a perfect place, but it is a good one. I hope you find the support you need here.

hiya John, don't worry about not going into details about where you live. I feel it's prudent; we ask for ages as a screening mechanism. It's not perfect, but it helps. So besides that, you needn't say anything more than you feel comfortable with.
I understand. Hopefully you might find what you're looking for here; we do our best, and there's other son & mum couples here too. Secrecy has to be our biggest stress contributor!
I'm not surprised the other boards weren't very helpful, but then again, they sent you here. So in the end, something good came from visiting them.
take care & welcome to the forums ^_^

Greetings John! I too am with my mom, our relationship started later in life, but has endured 13 years now. Questioning one's self is normal, and sometimes you have to make a change. We have found that even though we wish we could be out, our love for each other keeps us safe and sane, though we tease each other in public sometimes about being suspected. KS has supported mom and I, and you can count on honest and caring reply and advice.