Hello, helpless young girl here struggling with GSA

Hi,
I've finally decided to do what I always wanted to do: To find people who have experienced what I am going through. I have had bad experiences with Therapists in the past and the posts on reddit all seem unrealistic to me (just the way the users there talk about sex ).

Some Info: I am 19 and have been in a secret intimate "relationship" with my biological father for a little over a year now. We first met when I was 13, and started getting to know each other when I was 16. We never did anything sexual before I was 18! I am not 100% as comfortable with the idea of incest as other people on forums I have looked at. I can't quite make up my mind if consanguinamory is fully okay (I for myself am alright with doing something unacceptable), but I sure feel like if it wasn't illegal in my country (am I allowed to mention that?), this whole thing would be way easier for me.

I have kind of gotten stuck in what seems to be a situation where every move forward could end in a catastrophe.

I just feel a huge need to ask advice from people in similar situations.

Good morning, WildSide! I’m glad you made it here, and I hope you get the advice you’re seeking. I know you’ll get support from others who have experienced GSA. Please feel free to share.

I agree with you about reddit. This is a much better place for what you need.

Consanguinamory is legal in France, where this forum is hosted, so it’s okay to talk about it here. And, honestly, even if it's not legal where you are, prosecuting consangs who don't make trouble is not high on the priority list for the civil-justice system. Stay under the radar and you'll be fine.

An admin will have to clear you for full access, but I think that’ll be okay.

Best,
UN

Welcome aboard, WildSide! Your account has been upgraded.

You've come to the right place.

There's nothing wrong with adults mutually sharing affection. You can speak freely here, since nobody knows who you are, though it would be best to do it in the members sections, to which you now have access.

Welcome to the forums, I concur with the others that you've found the right place here. Unlike other forums, we're here to have discussions about relationships rather than focus on the sex like so many other places do. The reddit is truly dreadful, and is frequented by a large number of people who simply have an incest fetish, the reason those posts sound unrealistic is because they aren't for real... they're making up stories because it helps them to get off, and that isn't useful for people seeking genuine answers. This site is different, we're here to help each other in a mutually supportive and non-judgemental atmosphere.

Now, as to whether or not you feel okay about consanguinamory, many people have difficulties wrapping their head around their feelings and reconciling that with the hostile attitudes in society, with some people wondering if there is something wrong with them for having the feelings that they do. In truth, we are simply part of the broad spectrum of human sexuality, we're every bit as normal as any other minority group involving consenting adults. Society just hasn't got the memo yet!

All consanguinamory is made possible by a lack of Westermarck Effect (best described as the 'eww' factor most people experience when thinking about a relative in a sexual way) between the two people concerned. In GSA relationships (as in your case), Westermarck is absent because you and your father were not in contact when you were in your formative years, and for that reason it never got to develop. For other people, Westermarck just doesn't develop despite their being no separation, and in the community we refer to this as non-GSA (before these terms were coined it was just called incest, but we don't tend to call it that so much now because of the negative connotations).

I was your age when I first reached out to find others (I had a non-GSA relationship with my dad which lasted for 8 years on and off), and back then there wasn't anything like this forum, there was only forums attached to porn sites, which didn't help much. I remember how it made me feel nervous making that first post and not knowing what kind of reception I'd get... and I had so many questions. Am I normal for one of us? Why do I feel this way?...etc. I expect you've probably had similar thoughts going through your mind. You'll find your answers in this community I am sure of it, and if you ever need to talk I'm only a PM away, or e-mail me at janedoeofks@protonmail.com

Oh, and in case you didn't see it yet, you could always read some of MY BLOG which contains everything I've written about consanguinamory since I came back to the community two years ago. Hopefully some of my work will be of use to you.

Hi & welcome to our forums WildSide, and thank you for having the courage to reach out to us. Likewise, if you have question or need something, ask & I'll help you if I can.
I hope we can talk about your uncertainties. We'll figure things out together.
Take care & see you!

Welcome to KS. You have found a good place to ask questions and seek advise. I can understand where you are coming from as I have lived with those same thoughts for years. The illegal part can make a relationship very scary.